Getting the basics right

Your kids are bored? Fantastic!

It's the second week of the school holidays, the weather is lovely yet your kids are irritable because they are bored, fantastic!

Psychologists and child behaviourists tell us boredom is good for kids as it encourages creativity whereas constant entertainment breeds irritability and restlessness under the law of diminishing returns. 
If you would like your child to develop their own creative interests they need the time and space to do just that.

Of course at first it won't be comfortable for them (or you)  if they are unfamiliar with the sensations and used to someone / something else creating a distraction. 

"I'm bored"

"I'm bored" are words that seem to strike fear into the hearts of many parents who then try to solve the 'problem' by suggesting all kinds of things, arranging yet another outing or allowing yet more screen time. 


This is a vital life lesson for your child. Boredom is not something to be feared, rather it is an opportunity, an opening into another world; the world of thoughts, of ideas, of quiet contemplation, the world of decision making.  

It is also about responsibility, about who is in charge of your child's feelings.  

So when your hear "I'm bored" instead of providing a list of suggestions, try something different such as "OK, what would you like to do about that?"

As that is an opened ended question you might have to put in qualifications such as " remember we are having an at home day today" or "Remember today we're having a screen free day".

At first there will likely be lots of complaining and even anger if the child is used to being constantly entertained. Here is where you stay calm and just hand the situation back to child.

"OK I hear you're bored, perhaps you can think about what you're going to do". Don't at this stage give in and start making suggestions such as "You've got all that Lego you could make something, or there's lots of craft material what could you make....."

Allow your child to sit with their feelings

Allow your child to sit with their feelings and decide what they will do about them, and yes it may be a very long day. If you are able to do this you will clearly demonstrate to your child you believe they can solve the 'problem' at hand. 

Changing patterns of behaviour is not easy for children or adults so be patient and keep your focus on the end goal. A child who is able to draw on their creative instincts and who has a wide range of interests and activities is in a position of strength. 

 Space and quiet time

 Space and quiet time will give your child the opportunity to develop the skill of listening to themselves, of finding their creative instincts and interests.

In the modern 24 hour electronic world quiet space can be hard to find.  

There's a great deal of money to be made out of convincing parents that children need constant entertainment, so this school holidays try something different, stick with quiet time for a few days and enjoy the results.  

Are you tired of being surrounded by mess?

If you're fed up with being surrounded mess, I can help. 

I really can. 

I will work with you to establish practical order and teach you why it’s important and how to maintain it while still meeting the active developmental needs of your child.

This may sound impossible but it's not, and when it's done it will make a huge difference to family life. 

Practical advice tailored to the specific needs of your family is the fastest and most effective way for you to achieve change.

Making change without support is difficult, not impossible but difficult, especially for busy parents.

Would you like a calmer home with happier, more content children (and adults!)?

Together we can make that a reality.

Creating a Calmer Home

 I will: 

  • Show you how to assess and sort the toys you already have. Advise you on which best serve the current developmental needs of your child and which need to be discarded or stored.

  • Demonstrate how to use the toys you already have in new ways. Organised differently the toys will have new appeal and your little one will be happier and more satisfied. 

  • Show you how you can create new activities which will satisfy your child's drive for independence.  

  • Advise on storage and rotation systems needed to sustain the newly established order. 

  • Discuss reorganisation of spaces so your child has an area where they can 'work' independently. 

  •  Demonstrate how to put the motto 'Help me to do it myself' into practice and understand your child's drive for meaningful activity. 

  • Teach you ways to promote and protect your child's concentration. 

  • Provide practical information about what, if anything, is additionally needed.

  • Check-in phone call to see how you're going.

Transformation packages

Physical transformation plays a very import part in behavioural transformation.

  • Half day home consultation  + written plan for ongoing sustainability + follow up phone call

  • Full day home consultation + written plan for ongoing sustainability + follow up phone calls

If you don’t live within reasonable travelling distance in Melbourne I am always happy to support you via Skype or phone.

How to give your child what they really crave, calm simplicity.

What does your child really need?  

More experiences, more educational toys, more outings, more play dates, more, more...., more?

Perhaps what they really need, what would really make them happier and more satisfied is not more but less. 

Many adults are attracted to the philosophy of de-cluttering, and find that simplifying their life brings a sense of peace, the same applies to the young child.  

Less for most children would very definitely be more.

A simple Montessori-inspired approach to parenting has a lot to offer busy parents.

It offers practical, easy to understand strategies to simplify home life and most importantly it helps parents understand and focus on the needs of young children.

How to start?

Step 1. Press the blue button

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Children thrive in a calm environment

Young children thrive in a well ordered environment.

Rearranging your child’s play area to meet their developmental needs will result in a happier, calmer, more engaged child who plays independently for longer periods of time.

Practical steps to a well prepared play area

  1. Assess and sort the toys you already have and decide which best serve the current developmental needs of your child and give away or store the rest. Use the Goldilocks principle, not too easy not too hard, but just right.

  2. Look at those toys in new ways. Get creative. Displayed differently the toys will often have a new appeal and better meet the child’s developmental needs. 

  3. Learn how to put the motto 'Help me to do it myself' into practice to satisfy the child's drive for independence and meaningful activity. There are lots of ideas on the blog page to help with this.

  4. Think about a storage and rotation system to sustain the newly established order.

  5. Make sure there is an area where the child can 'work' independently. Include things like a rubbish bin and a drying rack for painting and collage.

  6. Concentration is an important skill for future learning. Promoting and protecting a child's concentration, also increases the likelihood of sustained play. 

  7. Make a list of things you need to purchase. Purchase them.

Stand back, smile and enjoy the beauty and benefits of your work.

You would like support to do this please contact me as I can do this with, or for you.


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Families do well when there is consistency, order and security.


The choices we make for our young children lay the foundation for all that is to follow in their lives, the way we talk to them becomes their inner voice.

Raising children is like building a house from the foundations up. However parents interact with their children, they are building the future of their child.


You'll be relieved to know it's not a matter of doing more but of developing a clear idea of what sort of parent you want to be and understanding your child’s needs.

A great way to start is by allocating a block of time to discuss and decide what type of parenting you want to practise.

Alone or with help?

Deciding on your parenting priorities can be done with or without the help of a supportive parenting mentor. 

If you want things to be different it's really important for you to get the support you need.

Families thrive when there is consistency, order and security.

There's a maze of parenting information out there and lots of people offering any number of quick fixes. Instead of a quick fix (which is almost never quick nor a fix), developing knowledge gives you a compass to guide you on your parenting journey.

Instead of random quick fixes, I advocate a thoughtful, considered approach inspired by the philosophy of Maria Montessori. Having an underlying philosophy they can refer to is a a great support to many parents.

Even if you've never head of Maria Montessori or know nothing at all about Montessori education it doesn't matter. 

Montessori-inspired parenting takes a respectful and very very practical approach based on understanding the developmental needs and stages of the child.

With their developmental needs are met your child will be happier, your home calmer and there'll be a lot less stress and tension all round.

Using a modern Montessori-inspired approach gives you wonderfully practical tools to encourage independence, build skills and develop resilience, resulting in greater happiness and harmony for parents and children alike.


Parents are you drowning in kids toys? Have a huge clear-out and feel the calm descend


Many parents of young children express frustration that their house is filled with toys yet the toys don't seem to satisfy their child for more than a moment.

There are many reasons for this:

  • the activities are designed for an older child and are too difficult or they are too easy and provide no challenge at all.

  • Parts are missing or many different toys are jumbled up together

  • The tools/materials required are not on hand or they are not effective

So how can you make better use of the toys you have so your child will be able to select an activity and work with it (on their own)?

Yes, this is possible!

  1. Sort through the toys you have, discard any which are incomplete or if the pieces are lovely use them to create an entirely new activity.

  2. Decide which activities are right for your child's stage of development and interests. Remove those which are too easy or too hard

  3. Shelving: safe, child-height - shelving is vital.

  4. A designated work space (perhaps defined by an attractive mat) which contains a child-sized table and chairs.

  5. Trays / containers/ baskets which contain all the pieces of an activity.

  6. Trays / containers which are practical for containing materials which may be used in different activities e.g. scissors, paper, pencils,crayons, glue etc.

  7. Arrange the activities attractively on the shelves, categorising them where possible.

You don't need to put all toys out at once, rotate some from time to time.

You don't have to do this all by yourself, I can help you.

If these changes sound like exactly what's needed at your place, but you haven't the time or feel overwhelmed by the enormity of the task, don't worry because help is available, this is one of the services offered by even better parenting.


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